Planned Teaching    
                      Boys Town Social Skill Lesson Plan  
 

How to Accept No for an Answer

  
       
       
Introduce Skill What does it mean?  Why do you sometimes have to accept  
What? "no" for an answer?  Who says "No?"  How do you feel  
When? at this time?  Why do people sometimes need to say "No"  
Who? to your requests?  Tell about a time when this happened to   
  you.  What did you do?  What happened as a result of your  
  words or actions?    
       
Describe Skill Steps 1. Look at the person    
  2. Say "Okay."    
  3. No arguing, whining, or pouting.    
  4. If you don't understand why, ask calmly for a reason.  
  5. If you disagree or have a complaint, bring it up later.  
       
       
       
Rationale Often people cannot have everything they want.  
Benefit      
Neg. Consequence      
Concern      
       
       
Request for Do you understand?  Please repeat the steps of accepting  
Acknowledgment no for an answer.    
       
Practice Role play that the class has lost a certain privilege (I.e. follow-up art activity)   
  because of inappropriate behavior during the lesson.  Talk about  
  and role play specific steps to accept this "No" as an answer.  
  Include ways to appropriately discuss the matter later if they disagree.  
       
Feedback Great job of practicing the steps of Accepting No for an  
  Answer. (Praise specific steps followed.)    
       
       
Positive  Because you have practiced this skill so well, the class has  
Consequence earned lunch outside.    
       
       
Follow-Up Practice Review this skill whenever appropriate.  Let class know you will be  
  observing them to "catch them" using the skill of Accepting No  
  for an Answer.