Planned Teaching
Boys Town Social Skill Lesson Plan
	Accepting "no" for an Answer
Introduce Skill	Why do people sometimes need to say "no" to your requests?
What?	Explain what we mean by "accepting 'no' for an answer."
When?	Tell a time when you were told "no". What did you do?
Who?	Who says "no" to  you?  How did you feel?
Describe Skill Steps	1. Look at the person.
	2. Say "Okay."
	3. Stay calm.
	4. If you disagree, ask later.
Rationale	If a student accepts the answer "no" in a mature fashion, an authority
Benefit	figure will most likely remember and be more willing to let
Neg. Consequence	her do something when they feel the time is right.
Concern
Day 1:	A. Make a list of authorities who can make yes and no decisions,
	such as a parent, a teacher, or a baby-sitter.
	B. Talk about what makes "no" so hard to accept sometimes.
	C. Discuss some of the consequences of going against a "no"
	decision from an authority.
	D. List five situations when the student said no and give the reason
	why (I.e. Why can't her younger brother borrow her CD?)
	E. Introduce the proper way to accept no.
	F. Discuss the rationale for accepting no.
Day 2:	A. Review the steps and rationale.
	B. Have small groups select one of the following role playing scenarios.
	1. (Home) You've asked if you could go see a movie with
	a friend and your parents say "No."  Demonstrate a correct response
	to that decision.
	(School) You ask for an extension of time to complete
	your English paper and your teacher says "No."  Show acceptance
	of that decision.
	(Community)  You ask if you can return a pair of pants
	you bought on sale.  The clerk says, "No returns on sale items."
	Discuss how you would react to that decision.
	2. In small groups role play Script A "Accepting No" found on
	following pages.  Discuss the skill steps that were followed.
	3.  Role play Script B found on following pages.  This role play doesn't
	end with the student "Accepting No" correctly.  After the script
	has been read, divide the students into groups to create a
	proper ending.  Share these with the class.
	C. Complete the skill sheet found on the following pages.  Then
	discuss the answers as a group.
	D. Use Effective Praise throughout the school year to
	reinforce the skill.
	Attention Exploratory Teachers
	Possible ideas for involvement during this skill week.  Remember
	to use Effective Praise when able.
	1. Health/Per. Skills/Spk. And Listening - Have the students write
	and perform situations that would occur at home that
	would demonstrate the proper way to "Accepting No."
	The students could be the ones to say "no" or to accept "no."
	2. Computers and Art - Create a poster around the concept
	of "Accepting No." This could demonstrate a student accepting
	no in different situations, a top ten list of why he should accept
	no from an authority figure, or a message on this theme.