How to Disagree Appropriately

Planned Teaching Boys Town Social Skill Lesson Plan How to Disagree Appropriately

Introduce Skill	What is a disagreement? When do we disagree? (when there is a concern,
What?	misunderstanding, or problem.) Who disagrees? (Everybody,
When?	including my peers.)
Who?


Describe Skill Steps	1. Look at the person.
	2. Use a pleasant voice tone.
	3. Make an empathy/concern statement.
	4. State disagreement specifically.
	5. Give a rationale.
	6. Say "Thank you."


Rationale	When you disagree appropriately, you are less likely to need an adult
Benefit	to help. Others won't want to talk to you, and you might lose friends
Neg. Consequence	if you disagree inappropriately. Others will consider your opinions
Concern	if you present them calmly; others will give you the respect you
	deserve.

Request for Acknowledgment	Does this make sense? Do you understand? Let's repeat the skills steps together.


Practice	1. Role play a P.E. situation, game, or sport.
	2. Practice body language - how to stand, hand position,
	proximity, deep breaths.
	3. Teacher demonstrates a variety of voice tones.
	4. Students practice correctly.
	5. Tie the practice into a lesson by the counselor on how to relax and
	stay calm in a difficult situation.
	6. Practice making statements like, "We can talk about it later."

Feedback	Great job! (Give specific feedback on the steps followed correctly.)

Positive	You should feel good that you practiced disagreeing appropriately.
Consequence	Because you've done such a great job, the class has earned a
	"Good Sportsmanship" award. Let's post it in the hall where everyone can see.

Follow-Up Practice	Later in the week, we'll practice as a class again.