How to Disagree Appropriately

Planned Teaching Boys Town Social Skill Lesson Plan How to Disagree Appropriately

Introduce Skill	Who can tell me what it means to disagree? Is an argument
What?	a disagreement? Is a fight a disagreement? How do you feel
When?	when you argue and fight with a friend? When might you
Who?	disagree? (When playing games, stating opinions, when
	two people think they are right.) We disagree with our family,
	friends, teachers, etc.

Describe Skill Steps	1. Look at the person.
	2. Use a pleasant voice tone.
	3. Make an empathy/concern statement.
	4. State disagreement specifically.
	5. Give a rationale.
	6. Say "Thank you."

Rationale	When you disagree appropriately you are more likely to get your way.
Benefit	You may not get into a fighting match.
Neg. Consequence
Concern

Request for Acknowledgment	Does this make sense? Can someone repeat the skill steps for me?

Practice	1. Read the book Thump and Plunk by Janice May Udry. In this book,
	two siblings are fighting with their dolls. Mother intervenes to
	solve the problem. Could the children have solved the problem
	themselves? Could they have played with their dolls without arguing?
	2. Brainstorm ways to disagree appropriately
	3. Rewrite the story having the characters disagree appropriately.

Feedback	You did a good job of practicing the steps of How to Disagree
	Appropriately when we rewrote the story. (Be specific,
	renaming the steps.)

Positive	Because all of you practiced How to Disagree Appropriately,
Consequence	you have earned 10 minute to choose a friend and play
	Tic-Tac-Toe.

Follow-Up Practice	Later when we go to recess, remember how to disagree
	appropriately.