Planned Teaching

                      Boys Town Social Skill Lesson Plan

                         "Accepting 'No' for an Answer"

Introduce Skill

Why do people sometimes need to say "no" to your requests?

What?

Explain what we mean by "accepting 'no' for an answer."

When?

Tell a time when you were told "no".  What did you do?

Who?

Who says "no" to you?  How did you feel?

Describe Skill Steps

1.  Look at the person.

2.  Say "Okay."

3.  Stay calm.

4.  If you disagree, ask later.

Rationale

When you accept "no" gracefully, the person may be more

Benefit

willing to listen to your disagreement(s) this time or next time.

Neg. Consequence

When you don't accept "no" in a calm manner, people may not

Concern

listen to you at all.  OR  Often, people cannot have everything

they want.

Request for

Repeat the steps.  Does this make sense?

   Acknowledgment

Practice

Role play that the class has lost a certain privilege because of

inappropriate behavior during the lesson.  Talk about and role

play the specific steps to accept "no".  Include specific steps on

how to discuss the matter later if they disagree.

Feedback

You did a great job of practicing "Accepting 'No' for an answer!"

(Praise specific steps followed and give specific feed back for

areas of improvement.)

Positive

Because you practiced so well, you have earned 10 minutes of

   Consequence

extra free time.  (or other positive consequences that are

appropriate for the time like penny candy or playing a game.)

Follow-Up Practice

Let the class know that you will be observing the class to "catch

them" using the skill "Accepting "No" for an Answer."  Continue to

praise correct use of the skill and re-teach as needed.